Somebody's Getting Married!

July 2012 (photo by Julia Cocuzza)

Yup, it's official. Mike and I are engaged! Here's how it all went down. 

It began one Sunday afternoon a couple weeks after Mike and I started dating. We were just beginning to introduce each other to our respective friends, and that day, a good friend of mine was meeting Mike for the first time. Somewhere between brunch and a trip to the mall (we're super gay, I know), Mike stepped away for a moment, so I eagerly seized the opportunity to gather my friend's first impression: 

Me: "Well? What do you think?" 

Friend (without a blink of hesitation): "I love him, Dan! He is SO great!"

Me (beaming): "I know ... I'm going to marry him."  

It was one of those moments where as soon as you hear yourself saying the words, you realize you actually mean them. It's sort of startling, but in a completely wonderful way. I suddenly realized this was the first time I had ever felt that way about someone, let alone had the conviction to say so out loud. Mike and I barely knew each other, but that's exactly how I felt. And honestly, I never stood a chance. I was no match for Mike's instant, irresistible charms, and he basically had me at the first "let's get dessert." By now it was obvious to anyone who knew me that I was smitten like never before.

Four years, eight months, and several days later, I would work this little story into the speech I delivered while proposing to Mike. (And yes, it was I who did the proposing, to answer the most-asked question about our engagement thus far.) After all this time, my early-on sentiment was about to become reality. Sure, there was never much doubt that we would eventually get there, but we'd never been in a huge rush toward the altar, either. We didn't mind just taking our time. And anyway, before we could do anything, this had to happen first.

But finally, after months of anticipation, it was time.  

Last Friday night, under the pretense of treating him to a quiet post-birthday dinner, I slyly lured Mike to one of our neighborhood's finer dining establishments. I made my way to the restaurant a little before Mike (slipping out early for a sudden "work emergency"), and arranged to have flowers and champagne waiting at the table for his arrival. But with everything in place, I was still stressing about when I was supposed to pop the question. (Over the first drink? Over the main course?? Over dessert??? Mmmm ... dessert.)

Mike seemed perfectly at ease during our usual pre-dinner chit-chat, but I was nervous, sweaty, and conspicuously fidgety. I couldn't hold out much longer. Once the server had poured the champagne, and taken our dinner orders, I decided it was do-or-die time. With a deep breath, I reached across the table, took Mike by the hand, and earnestly delivered those heartfelt words about my feelings for him. 

I then asked Mike if he would marry me. He said he'd have to think on it. 

(J/K, friends! He totally said yes! What did you think this post was about?)

I liked it, so I put a ring on it.

And so did he.

(Mike's ring from the Dina Martina Gift-Parade collection, and mine from the decidedly better-tasting Top Pot collection.)

The bubbly-fueled aftermath of this moment is a bit blurry. There were some teary, choked-up exchanges of lovey-dovey nonsense, followed by a dizzying discussion of all the potential details of our wedding, followed by a flurry of ecstatic phone calls to family and friends that basically consumed the rest of our night. One thing I do remember is that Mike called his folks right there at the dinner table, and while they were overjoyed by the news, they expressed very little surprise. (Turns out someone had privately spoken with them beforehand in order to obtain their blessing. Sounds like a classy guy to me.) 

The next day, as our news began to spread, the elated congratulatory calls kept pouring in, and some friends even showed up with vital engagement provisions:

Yup, that's a giant, green beer mug.

They're a wacky bunch, our friends.

And I must say, all the wonderful, enthusiastic responses from our dear friends and loved ones have been nothing short of overwhelming. We couldn't be happier or more excited about our plans, and we've never felt so loved.

Now all we have to do is plan the damn thing. (No sweat there, right? RIGHT?) We'll be figuring out the exact where and when very soon, but we're planning on a Seattle wedding sometime this summer (shooting for June 15th - already our anniversary!). It's gonna be a hectic few months. But hey, at least we know some great wedding-stationary folks!

And if the Muppets can pull it off, so can we: 



(Note: The inclusion of this clip should in every way be seen as an endorsement of legalized frog-on-pig marriage. Love is love, people!)